How environment affects behavior; investigating how bonobos differ from chimpanzees, and how both might provide insight on the origins of human society.
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years. I love him dearly but I think I want to open the relationship up sexually. But I am not sure if I am ready for that (I have jealousy issues), plus I don't know if he would be ok with it, or how I would even bring it up or how we would maintain it. Any advice you can give me?
Sorry it’s taken me so long to contact you. I just don’t know what to tell you. If you are jealous that is something you would need to work on. I think maybe reading Opening up by Tristan Taormino would help.
Dan Savage: Why Monogamy Is Ridiculous
Ask anyone who’s married or in a relationship of more than a few years: long-term commitment is HARD. Lately a few of my married friends have admitted that they’re feeling attracted to men who aren’t their husbands, and the guilt is just crushing them. It got me thinking: what makes lust for others start and what (if anything) makes it stop?
Attraction is a force nearly impossible to describe; only poets do it justice. We feel it; we don’t spend time analyzing it. And yet so many of us end up in sexless marriages or long-term relationships that deaden over time. Some get the two-year itch, the five-year itch, and the seven-year itch. But damn it – it’s quite an itch, and not scratching it can lead to frustration, projection, and depression. Also, divorce…………
For many of us, the urge to couple up is a strong one. It might even be programmed into our DNA. But does love mean never dating or having sex with other people?
Several years ago, I decided to challenge the idea that the only way to a loving, committed relationship was to be monogamous. My then-boyfriend and I decided to try an open relationship. We were committed to each other, referred to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend, and were both allowed to date and be physically intimate with other people. We eventually broke up (for various reasons, most of which weren’t related to our openness), but since then I’ve remained interested in rethinking relationships—and it turns out I’m not alone…………………………
Please don’t define me.
It’s an overriding theme for people to use stereotypical definitions for labels. No wonder the anti-label camp stands strong. And no group is innocent of doing it. It’s a genuinely widespread problem in the mainstream and in the leather, poly, and LGBT communities to which I belong.
I have had a shift in labels, lifestyle, and who I am lately…………
When the new Canadian census figures were released this week, there was a lot of talk about the rise in single-person households, as well as same-sex pairings and unmarried couples with children. But another variety of domestic arrangement continues to fly below the radar of demographics: those that involve more than two adult romantic partners….
Republican presidential candidate Newt Gingrich’s ex-wife has said they divorced after she rejected his request for an “open marriage”.
People in open marriages have told the BBC that if her version of events is true, the former House Speaker broached the subject the wrong way……